A first date does not need to be complicated. The best ones are relaxed, easy to end if the spark is not there and easy to extend if it is. Here are some ideas that work almost anywhere in the UK, whether you live in a city, a market town or the countryside.
Keep it simple
1. Coffee and a walk
The classic for a reason. Meet for a coffee somewhere busy, then stroll through a park, along a river or around the town. Walking side by side takes the pressure off, and there is always something to point out.
2. Afternoon tea
A pot of tea and a slice of cake is a friendly, unhurried way to talk. Daytime is also a comfortable setting if you would rather not meet in the evening on a first date.
3. A pub lunch
Many pubs serve good food at lunchtime in a calm, unrushed atmosphere. Pick somewhere you know, or one with plenty of people about, and make it a long lunch only if the conversation flows.
Out and about
4. A garden or park
Botanical gardens, historic gardens and local parks make lovely settings, with benches for a proper chat and plenty to look at. Check opening times and any entry cost before you go.
5. A gallery or museum
Many national museums and local galleries across the UK have free entry. You will soon find out whether you enjoy the same things, and there is always something to talk about. Check opening times before you set off.
6. A walk by the water
Canals, rivers, lakes and the seafront are all good for an easy stroll. Choose a well used path in daylight and wear comfortable shoes.
7. A market or a food hall
Browsing stalls together gives you plenty to chat about, and you can share a snack as you go. It is lively and public, which suits a first meeting.
Something to share
8. An afternoon matinee
A film is good if you both love cinema, though you will not be able to talk during it. Arrange a coffee or a bite beforehand or afterwards so you can compare notes.
9. A talk, a class or a workshop
Local venues often run talks, craft sessions and tastings. Trying something new together is a good way to break the ice and see how you get on.
10. A guided walk or heritage visit
Local history walks and historic buildings give you plenty to discuss. Book ahead if a visit needs a ticket.
11. Bowls, crazy golf or a gentle game
A little friendly competition can make for a lot of laughter. Pick something light that you can both enjoy at your own level.
12. A video chat first
Not a date as such, but a short video call before you meet helps you both relax. Read our guide to dating safely for more on this.
A few tips before you go
- Choose somewhere public and make your own way there and back.
- Let a friend know where you are going and when you expect to be home.
- Check opening times, weather and travel before you set off.
- Keep the first date short. If it goes well, you will have a good reason for a second.
- Be yourself. You are there to enjoy someone's company, not to impress.
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